Hate hate hate it!


When I attended the last writer's conference that I went to, and every publisher and agent I met with was interested, (in part because I did my homework about who to meet before I went) I left with one message from all of them, you have to write about your life and mix it in with your inspirational message.


Why???????? Can't something that works just stand on its own?


NO that is what will bring it into a possibility of reality for people when they read what you went through and where the message comes from and how you use it in your life.


But isn't how it has proven to work in the lives of others possibly even more powerfully than it has worked in my own important enough?


NO people want to know about YOUR life and hear YOUR story.


Well, if they only knew how extremely painful it is for me to recall and how little I want to dwell in the past maybe they could understand why I hate writing about it.


I am starting with this journaling to see if I can warm up to it but I doubt it.


Why must I be forced to remember my pain and suffering to help others?


Am I willing to do that?


Apparently so far, I have not been. And I said at the time, well then, I'll save this for when I am older and more distanced from it. But will I ever become distanced enough from it to be able to? I don't know! I really don't know! Even now just thinking about it is agitating me.


Tongue

Rocky
Uhm..........from previous conversations I think we share an awful lot of commonalities. 
I spent my life trying to forget my past and I've been successful insofar as forgetting the details.  I remember trips to hospitals in ambulances but I can't recall the events before, during or after.  And it go...
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Rocky
Oh my......when I wrote the above comment, for some reason I was thinking it was 'private'.   Probably because I'm here, but I'm also watching an episode of Mad Men!!   I was going to remove it......but what the hell.  It's not personal.  But it DOES make me sound like a lunatic.   Oh well........I ...
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Wanda Hope Carter
Oh I'm glad you didn't remove it! I almost deleted the next blog I was working on and had finished actually when I read your comment and decided to publish it. You don't sound like a lunatic! I think this is all perfectly normal reactions that we have. To run TO pain would be crazy. I have all the s...
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Redneck Angel Warrior
 
No Rocky! You don't sound crazy!! It's difficult to write about or even to remember the painful episodes of our lives. It's like opening an old wound and letting all the infection out....it hurts like hell! BUT...sometimes we must re-open those wounds so that we can fully heal from them also, as th...
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Rocky
Thank you Red.  It's nice when people 'understand'; it really is.   I remember a long time ago my mother-in-law and sister-in-law and I were talking.  I said something about depression being painful and they both didn't know what I was talking about.    Neither of them were ever depressed before.   ...
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Redneck Angel Warrior
It's difficult for some to understand if they have never been there. I have...I've been very depressed at times in my life. I've had to look at the scars left on my heart and some of them had to be re-opened to fully let them heal......so, I could move on.
I would bet that most folks are afraid to ad...
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Rocky
If the brave ones didn't write about their experiences we wouldn't have any fiction and therefore no movies!
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Marge Pauls
People want to hear life stories because they're snoops!  They want to know others have gone through adversity and survived and have a "feel-good" ending so they can say "isn't so-and-so WONDERFUL???"
 
That being said, may I suggest a back-door approach?  Pick something you have accomplished that mea...
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Wanda Hope Carter
Thank you Marge! These are wonderful ideas! If only I could be so clever to carry them out. Unfortunately I have an off on switch and once it is on it just goes with the flow. I would not know how to begin to just allow peaks and tidbits or to be mysterious. lol I bet one thing no one has ever said ...
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Redneck Angel Warrior
I happen to think you are wonderful already! You have more talent than I could ever have for writing.
Would it be easier for you to tell the story in a third person way? Do you have to expose yourself to everyone and lay it raw and out in the open? Have you asked yourself what it is that is making it...
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Marge Pauls
You write, I'll edit--heck, I've been making legal briefs sound interesting for over 30 years, even Court of Appeals cases! We'll call ourselves Carter Pauls...
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GAGA GAGA
always remember if it doesn't feel good dont do it
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Redneck Angel Warrior
True....but also the saying....Feel the fear and do it anyways....is a viable option here.
I think Wanda needs to ask herself...what's the worst case scenario of doing this is, for her. ....then keep asking that question to every answer she gives herself, so she has a better understanding of the why.
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Marge Pauls
Wanda, do be careful of your "I am" statements!  Whatever you call yourself means you're on the road to becoming it--and that goes for EVERYTHING, positive or negative!  It is the spoken word that carries the most weight.  If one is taking insulin, for example, one doesn't say, "I am diabetic."  One...
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GodAlwaysWins
this was an excellent reminder; than you Margie Ji
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